I set out to actively lead a life that truly feels good in the Spring of 2008 after a series of setbacks in my personal life. My aim is to spread whatever I learn about feeling good to others through this blog.
My Story #9: The Walls Come Crashing Down
In the last installment of my story I was on a high after discovering the Law of Attraction and I had spent two months visualising the new life I wanted to create for myself but this high did not last.
Just two months later my partner of 10 years announced (seemingly out of the blue) that she wanted us to split up and my whole world collapsed. I knew we had problems but I thought that we were on the brink of resolving them. I couldn’t understand how what had manifested was actually the complete opposite of what I was trying to attract. I’m not going to re-hash the whole story but at the time I was utterly devastated and it turned my life upside-down. I moved out, went to live with family, and later sold my half of the house to her.
After some of the pain subsided I began to question it. My first thought was that this Law of Attraction thing was just a load of <insert rude word> but I had a nagging feeling at the back of my mind that it wasn’t and that somehow I had attracted this. I began to wonder what I had done wrong. I had been so clear in my visualising - I had seen us as a family, doing things together, going places, getting on better than we had before and I just couldn’t see how I could have been attracting the exact opposite.
Underlying this was another thought that kept creeping into my head and I kept pushing it away. I began to wonder if we had simply reached the point in our relationship where there was no hope and so this future that I was visualising could not possibly be with her. You create your own reality but when that reality involves another person then you both need to be in alignment with each other. We had been growing apart for many years and we were clearly heading in different directions. I didn’t want to accept this at first because I was vigorously fighting against the split and constantly trying to get us back together but over the next few weeks it became obvious that this was indeed why we’d split up.
This whole experience was painful and confusing but it started to teach me more about Law of Attraction. The first lesson is that you cannot attract a particular person. Think about it logically - if it worked that way what would happen when thousands of people all attracted the same hot celebrity for instance? The way it works is that your vibration emits a certain energy that attracts other things that match that vibration.
When you want an experience with a particular person, it is not the person that matters, it is the experience and the feelings that go with it. It’s very easily to be confused about this. In my case I was tempted to assume I wanted to be in a relationship with my existing partner because we had been together so long but what I really wanted was what that situation gave me - familiarity, that feeling of knowing each other inside out, getting on with all your partners friends & family and so on.
For a few weeks I was a complete mess but I wanted to get myself out of the hole I was in and the only way I had of making myself feel better for a few moments was when I managed to concentrate long enough on an alternate future that felt good. Thankfully, my intense misery only lasted 5 weeks as relief was just around the corner.
Stumble it!
Glen Allsopp
September 12, 2008
I’m interested in seeing the final part of your story and how life is now, although I have a pretty good idea.
As you know, I’m not a huge fan of the LoA and see it’s results as a self-fulfilling prophecy i.e. if you think of good and eventually good happens you believe it works.
You are right about only being able to manifest certain things otherwise it wouldn’t work, but…isn’t that a major flaw in the theory?
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