Can a Little Bit of Resistance Be a Good Thing?

In the last post I talked about resistance and discussed some ideas for how to release it. Generally speaking resistance is a bad thing - it puts you in a negative mindset and blocks you from getting what you want but are there circumstances in which it can be of value?

The Role of Resistance in the Law of Attraction

I’ve been listening to a lot of Law of Attraction material lately - CDs from Abraham Hicks and archives of Wayne Dyer’s radio show on Hay House Radio. The basic premise seems to be that the only factors that affect the speed of manifestation of what you want are the strength of your desire for it and the amount of resistance around it. Most of us don’t have a problem with the desire part; it’s the resistance that trips us up. We roll around negative thoughts in our heads, we don’t believe we can have whatever it is that we want, we get frustrated with our current circumstances and so on.

So that is why its a good thing to work on releasing resistance and even if you’re not really a believer of Law of Attraction principles, resistance does not feel good so its a good thing to release it because it helps us feel better.

Where’s My Stuff?

There have been many times when I have not had what I wanted but I could see clearly why - because I just couldn’t get that negativity out of my head. I just couldn’t seem to stop focusing on the bad stuff, going over the past, beating up on myself and so on and this also added further resistance into the equation because I knew that all these negative thoughts were just pushing away the things that I wanted.

But over the last few months in particular, the resistance has slowly but surely lessened and my general state of being now compared to how it was just 5 months ago is radically different. But here’s the kicker - just as I start to feel better about everything and focus purely on what I want to manifest for my future and feel good about that, I start to get this nagging voice in my head that’s asking the question, “so where’s my stuff?”

You see, if my desire is strong (it’s red hot!) and I’m feeling good about it and I have let go of all those negative thoughts then surely I should be steaming towards what I want at a very fast pace. And if it has been this way for a while now then why isn’t it here yet? WHERE’S MY STUFF?!?!

Of course, as I’m sure you can see, getting impatient and frustrated is just another form of resistance. Sometimes I feel like I can’t win. On the one hand I know that the better I feel and the less resistance I have the more likely I am to be able to manifest what I want but on the other hand if I feel great all the time then I get frustrated if my desires don’t show up as quickly as I think they should.

Where Resistance Can Be Helpful

I’m living with family at the moment and probably will be for quite a few months. It’s ok but sometimes it can be annoying. My mother is very set in her ways and we see things very differently on many subjects so sometimes we clash and annoy each other a bit. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me and I’m just grateful to have somewhere to live but sometimes I can feel the frustration rising. I’m getting impatient, wanting to have my own place more quickly, or wishing my mother would just see things my way more often :-)

However this frustration is mild, it doesn’t cause me any major negative emotions and is more of a gentle nagging feeling. A walk in the fresh air or a few minutes with a good book usually gets rid of it. So I don’t stress over it too much. I doubt that having a little mild frustration is going to manifest anything disastrous in my life - but it could slow down my manifestations a bit.

This last point made me think that perhaps a little bit of resistance can be helpful. I think there are probably very few people who are absolutely positive 100% of the time and never have any negative emotion whatsoever. I’m sure even the most ‘enlightened’ of beings have some form of resistance now and then. So when I start thinking that I have it all sorted, that I’m totally positive and therefore should be manifesting my stuff at any moment, it’s probably a bit of an illusion.

The problem is that we are often blind to our own faults. So when I feel a little bit of resistance, or more importantly, I notice it, it lets me know that I’m human, that I don’t have it all sorted and this allows me to chill out a little bit and not expect everything to just fall into place overnight. In this way I find it easier to focus on the things that are going well, to notice the little improvements here and there which in turn does make me more positive overall.

Because I am no longer assuming that my vibration is 100% positive I am not expecting everything to manifest itself instantly so it allows me to relax and just let things come in their own time scale. Basically, it allows me to stop getting impatient and yelling, WHERE’S MY STUFF?

Stumble it!